If you’re posting anything in relation to something traumatic you’ve experienced, expect nothing more/less than it being an invitation for people to pass judgement. They’ll tell you that you need to ”get over it”, how what you’ve been through is nothing in comparison to what they’ve been through, some even get so dark as to say you deserved it or it’s not true. You may get a few validating comments from people who relate or wish you well, but even if the positive comments far outnumber the negative ones, and you’re hearing things you always needed to hear, one negative comment can not only trigger your trauma but also make it worse.
The internet and social media has created a disconnect in which people feel free to be cruel. The anonymity of the internet brings out the absoulte worst in people for some reason. It’s like we’re all on a hunt to find what’s wrong with literally everything and everyone, and we need to point it out in the most agressive way possible. In addition to that, unfortunately it seems what people can’t understand, they mock. No one is going to understand your trauma like you do. Even the most well meaning person could say something that ivalidates you or feels insulting in some way, because they don’t see the big picture the way you do.
TikTok is a few seconds in which people form a fast judgement, and it’s usually a harsh one. Without taking sides at all (truthfully I don’t even know the story, just the meme-like aftermath), that one girl on TikTok saying “you f---king knew!” because a joke, when it was apparently her pouring her heart out about deep pain. Beyond TikTok, here are just a few examples of how trauma has become a joke in the past - Kim Kardashian’s Paris robbery inspired a Halloween costume right after it happened; Britney Spears shaving her head/anything else to do with her life really was mocked and deemed ’crazy’. Society made it all a joke. This is sadly the case for everyone, and it can make it dangerous for a person if they choose to share what they have gone through or are currently going through. At a time when you’re at your most vulnerable, hoping for someone to say something that might make you feel a little better, you will likelu only ever get more hurt, and this can cause complex trauma.
They say ‘if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all’, even though few people seem to follow that rule these days. ( It’s more like ‘only say something if it’s the rudest thing you can think of’). In the case of talking about traumatic experiences, adjust it for yourself to say ‘if you can’t handle something not nice being said about it, don’t say anything at all” (no one can handle it, you’re not super human).