Usually without them realizing what’s happening.
One common manipulation tactic is gaslighting Manipulation Tactics where the manipulator causes someone to doubt their own memory, judgment, or perception of reality. This often involves denying facts, twisting events, or insisting the victim is “overreacting” or “imagining things.” Over time, gaslighting can erode a person’s confidence and make them increasingly dependent on the manipulator for validation.
Another tactic is **guilt-tripping**, where the manipulator uses guilt to influence behavior. This can sound like, “After everything I’ve done for you, this is how you treat me?” The goal is to make the other person feel responsible for the manipulator’s emotions or problems, even when that responsibility is unfair.
**Love bombing** is also a well-known tactic, especially in relationships. This involves overwhelming someone with affection, praise, attention, or gifts early on. While it appears positive, it’s often a strategy to quickly gain trust, create emotional dependence, or distract the target from noticing red flags. Once trust is secured, the manipulator may shift to more controlling behaviors.
**Silent treatment** is another subtle tactic, where a manipulator withholds communication or affection to punish or control someone. This creates anxiety and prompts the target to “fix” things—even if they aren’t at fault.
Manipulators may also use **playing the victim**, exaggerating hardships or portraying themselves as misunderstood to evoke sympathy and avoid accountability.