“Look at him/her.”
“Look what a good child that is!”
“Look how she is doing this.”
“Look how he listens to his mom.”
We all have heard different variations of this all around us. Let’s think about the child to whom these dialogues are said. Let’s for once put ourselves in that child’s shoes. Would these dialogues be effective for you in a healthy and long lasting way to bring in the desired change in behaviour? What would these things make you feel? You are an adult with a fully developed brain. What impact would this have on the tender minds and bodies of our children?
- It has effects on many levels.
- The child may feel rejected.
- The child may feel negatively towards the child they are compared to.
- The child may develop a habit of comparing themselves to others.
The child may feel negative emotions in the least and resentment or jealousy towards the other child.
The child doesn’t find any constructive ways to work on themselves.This is harmful to the child’s developing sense of self, self esteem and self confidence. Let’s look for ways to bring about change in our child’s behaviour which are healthy and constructive.
At Aajol, a preschool & daycare in Pune, we understand the importance of nurturing a child’s self-esteem and emotional well-being. Our preschool & daycare environment is designed to foster positive reinforcement, encouraging children to grow at their own pace without unhealthy comparisons. By focusing on individual strengths and providing a supportive atmosphere, we help children develop confidence, curiosity, and a love for learning in a stress-free manner. If you’re looking for the best preschool & daycare in Pune that prioritizes emotional and intellectual growth, Aajol is the perfect choice.
Activity:
- Observe yourself and your interactions with your child.
- Do you find yourself comparing your child to other children?
- Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others?
- Come up with one compliment for your child whenever you feel like comparing the child to someone else.
- Come up with one compliment for yourself whenever you feel like comparing yourself to someone else.