In this modern era, it is very possible for us to meet crushes through the virtual world, aka the internet. Ok, let's be honest, who among us has never tried dating sites or apps like Tinder, OKCupid, and others? This kind of social media allows us to meet people who are likely to match us, and then chat with them through chat.
Maybe there are some guys/girls who decide to meet and date because it's fun to chat with. However, chatting without having met the person before actually has some risks.
Not as beautiful as in Chat
Many people find it more fun to chat on chat applications than to meet in person. Chatting eliminates several other aspects that are quite important in interaction. Among them intonation, high-low voice, expression or facial expressions, and of course body language.
People who are good at expressing themselves through words in cyberspace, are not necessarily good at expressing themselves in the real world. There are people who, when they meet after a fun chat, become clumsy and lose their style.
So, you need to prepare yourself for these possibilities. Don't get your hopes up too high from a fun chat, before you meet and have a great date with that person.
Danger
Indeed meeting someone who is only known through social media has its own dangers. Especially people who are known through dating apps and dating sites. Not everyone uses these services to find a soulmate. There are those who just want an outlet for lust.
If you are also one of those looking for an outlet for your lust, then there might not be a problem as long as you do it responsibly. But if you are really looking for a partner, it's better to be a little more careful.
When making an appointment, it's better for you to be in control to determine where and when to meet. Choose a crowded public place like a mall or park.
In addition, you should choose the time of day when it is still light. You should refuse if you are asked to move to a quieter place, such as a boarding house, a hotel, and so on.
Invite your trusted friends, but don't introduce them to dates. Your friend can simply sit at another table where he can see you. This is to make sure you are not treated in any way. Your friends are also useful if your date turns out to be very far from what you expected and you want to run away. You can pretend to see your friend and immediately say goodbye to your date.
Easy to End in One-sided
Let's say you actually like him, he's friendly and fun to talk to. But it turns out, he's the one who doesn't feel right with you. Anyway, after this first date, he suddenly became difficult to contact and rarely returns to your chats.
This is normal. You also would do the same thing if it turns out you are not interested in your date, right? So, accept the rejection offered, and step back while you still have some dignity. But don't beat yourself up. Maybe you really didn't do anything wrong on your date yesterday. It's just that people have different tastes.
So don't cross blind dates off your list. With proper preparation and the right mindset, you can enjoy a blind date. So, be safe and have fun.